Monday, December 17, 2012

Dancing In The Mine Fields

I think one of the most important gifts we can give our children is for them to see you and your spouse making each other a priority. Every single day. It brings them a sense of stability, comfort, and love. Love that radiates from the parents on to them. It's a beautiful thing, when you think about it. Our children were created in love and for them to remain in complete love within the home, it needs to remain in us, the parents. We have the greatest responsibility to show them Christ's unconditional love.
When you add in the craziness of life... work... extra commitments... children... It becomes so easy to forget the importance of making our spouse a priority. The marriages that you hear about falling apart when they become empty nesters totally make sense... they had their priorities somewhere else for all those child-rearing years and one day they woke up with a roommate. I know none of us stand at the alter, bearing our souls to the one our heart desires, yearning for them to be our roommate. Of course not! We yearn for them to be our priority, our best friend, our love. What a treasured, delicate relationship marriage is. It must be nurtured and cared for daily.
I think that is why my trip away with honey to Florida was so important to me. To us. It was our way of showing our little children that mommy and daddy love each other so much that we desire to spend time alone together. It's not only for us, but for them as well.
Do you need to take a vacation alone together every year? No. Would it be nice? Do I even have to answer that? :) Though you may not be able to have a destination getaway every year or ever, it is possible to spend quality time alone together to nurture that relationship. Sometimes it requires creativity,locked doors,strict bedtimes, and good friends who will take your children for you, but it is totally do-able.
What will we do today to show your children where our priorities lie?